I have learnt to love the word NO

(WELL AT LEAST MAKE PEACE WITH IT)

Ever write a sentence and then feel your brain go “LIAR!”?

Well, that just happened to me because I just told you I’ve learnt to love the word NO. And yes, I certainly have, on one level, learnt to make peace with it.

I’ve learnt that it’s not personal. I’ve learnt this in my brain.
But my heart?
My heart and spirit think it’s personal no matter what. Even if I didn’t want a yes.

My ADHD and neurodiverse brain came with a few unexpected gifts, and one of them is rejection dysmorphia. While other people can shrug off the pain of rejection, I can become paralysed by it, lose the will to do anything else but nap, or just completely lose faith in myself for a few days.

I’ve learnt some really awesome tools to get over it. And yes, on some levels I do love the word NO in sales.

But there are days when it’s still not easy to hear, and you need to know that before we get all practical and stoic in the rest of this. Deal?

At the very least we can agree: No is not the end of the world. Right?

Yes, it feels brutal. (Unless you’ve had one of those nightmare sales experiences, walked out and are hoping you’ll never have to work with that person and then they come back with “We’d love to work with you.”)

What I’ve learnt to do is ask myself a really important question: